West Nusa Tenggara (NTB), especially Lombok, is very closely related to the phenomenon of "Merariq Kodeq" or in Indonesian "Early Marriage". At a very young age, they are getting married. When they should be studying and pursuing their dreams.
The people of Lombok are very familiar with the phenomenon of "Merariq Kodeq" in the Sasak language, if translated into Indonesian it can be said as "Early Marriage" or child marriage in today's terminology.
Santi is one of the many Sasak women who practice "Merariq Kodeq". Marriage should be beautiful, but it is different from the marriage experienced by Santi.
adbmi.org - Precisely in Dasan Tapen Daya Hamlet, Telaga Waru Village, Pringgabaya District, there has been violence against a woman named Santi (19 years old) who is the wife of Ahmad Yadi (24 years old) from Dasan Tapen Lauk Hamlet.
The violence committed is not physical violence but psychological violence, which causes mental disorders in the students who are victims of the violence.
This incident began with a statement from Ahmad Yadi who divorced his wife according to religious law, meaning that this divorce had not gone through a court process but in any case it was valid according to religious law.
The divorce that occurred between Santi and Ahmad Yadi, occurred because from the time they were dating, the families did not agree with their relationship, both Santi's family and Ahmad Yadi's family.
However, they still carried out the wedding, which was held in Dasan Tapen Lauk Hamlet, on Friday after completing Friday prayers.
After completing the wedding, Santi's father immediately left for Malaysia, leaving his family, who had previously also been in Saudi Arabia.
About two weeks after the marriage, the divorce occurred, and according to Santi's confession, she was pregnant. Ahmad Yadi's treatment was unacceptable to Santi's family, but what was even more tragic was that Santi was no longer accepted in her family.
Because, before the wedding, her family had warned Santi not to go through with the wedding, because it would be in vain, it would bring disaster, that's what Santi's family said.
How much Santi suffered, having been divorced by her husband, wanting to return to her family, but instead they did not accept her back.
Hearing the news, the author immediately came to Santi's house, at that time she happened to not be at home, she was at her friend's house. Coincidentally, her neighbor gave her contact number.
The author tried to contact her, Santi rushed home. Although at that time, her aunt, seemed not to care much about the author's presence.
During the interview with Santi, every question that was asked, not one was answered by Santi. Every question was answered with tears, not a single word could be answered by Santi. At the first meeting, the author failed to seek information from Santi.
Not at a loss, the author immediately rushed to the house of the Hamlet Head (Kadus) to tell what happened. The discussion we held with the Head of Dasan Tapen Daya Nasarudin SH, did not produce the results we wanted.
A few days later, the author made an appointment with Santi's ex-husband, to find information related to Santi. From the interview wrapped in a chat, the author also had time to tell the situation of his ex-wife like that, she was silent and did not answer.
In the end, he (the ex-husband) could only answer with one short sentence, "I can't handle my family," he explained.
Two days later, the author visited Santi's house again, but Santi could not be found at her house. Then the author tried to uncover information from Santi's neighbors who lived in her neighborhood.
The author speculates that the information provided by her neighbors can provide a spotlight and help find a way out of Santi's problems.
However, the results of the interviews with her neighbors were not that many, so they were not enough to help find a way out of Santi's problems.
Then the author concluded to immediately report her findings to the Integrated Service Center for the Empowerment of Women and Children (P2TP2A) of East Lombok Regency, to discuss the problems currently being faced by Santi and her family.
The solution from P2TP2A suggested approaching Santi's family, persuading them to accept Santi back so that Santi's mental condition can recover. Also contacting the Health Center in Pringgabaya to discuss and ask for a referral for Santi so that she can be treated more intensively.
The author did what P2TP2A suggested to meet Santi and her family. This time, he was finally able to meet her family and Santi.
Santi has looked better in the hands of her family. Seeing her condition is quite good, the author tried to do an interview, Santi gave a positive response and was willing to provide information from all questions related to the problems she has faced so far.
For an hour, the interview with Santi took place. The author concluded that what Santi wanted was to have something to do, so that she could forget the incident that had happened to her. Santi also hoped that she could build a career and that no more women would experience an incident like what she experienced.
Santi "Merariq Kodeq" Household and Her Family
Santi is a product of a broken home, Santi and her 2 (two) younger siblings were raised by their grandmother.
Her mother is an Indonesian migrant worker (PMI) who has gone abroad several times, to Saudi Arabia. And her father is also a Malaysian PMI, just like her mother.
During this time, Santi lived with 6 (six) other people in her grandmother's house, besides her 2 (two) younger siblings, aunt and her children also in her grandmother's house.
The one who supports Santi and her siblings is her mother, even her mother also renovated her grandmother's house. Santi's father rarely sends living expenses because now her father has remarried.
The proverb says "The fruit does not fall far from the tree", unfortunately Santi had to swallow the bitter fruit from an irresponsible tree.
His father often married and changed partners. His ex-wife also chose to leave because of her status as a widow at that time, because his father remarried.
Despite the complexity of the problems experienced by Santi and her family, KPBM Telaga Waru Village, Pringgabaya District, has taken action to help resolve the problems experienced by Santi and her family.
Because so far, cases like Santi's case are not uncommon in Telaga Waru village. There have been more than 4 (four) cases, which are similar in story to the story faced by Santi.
Field Companion Notes (2010)
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